Question: My 2½-year-old old son enjoys talking about different ways he can scare or hurt people.
These comments are brought up only when we are going to visit someone new or a public place such as a park. Some examples of what he would say when I tell him we are going to see these people: “I’m going put my water bottle on his face!” or “I’m going to push her and she’ll fall and she will cry!” What should I do?
I imagine hearing your son say these things makes you feel worried. I know many parents would be scared that this kind of talk means he’s not a good person and that he is bound for a troubled future. Don’t worry! There are reasons your son is acting like this and there is a lot you can do to help him.
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Sarah Rosensweet is a peaceful parenting coach and educator. She lives in Toronto with her husband and three big kids (ages 12, 15, and 18). Sarah teaches parents a non-punitive, connection-based approach that uses firm limits with lots of empathy. Find her at sarahrosensweet.com