“Meeting our child’s need for attention is like meeting a vital need such as food, water or sleep. “- Sarah Rosensweet
Have you ever been told that if your child is acting out to get attention that you should ignore it?
Consider this:
If our child is acting out because they are hungry, we would never withhold food.
If our child is acting out because they are tired, we would never keep them awake.
Please don’t ignore unwanted behavior! Ignore the folks who say you should.
If a child is acting out because they need attention, give it to them. This is a signal to us as parents that our child has a need to be met.
It can seem hard to fit everything in, especially now. However, let’s all do our best to share as much of our attention as we can.
If we “front load” the attention, and our kids won’t have to act out to get it.
Try-
Putting the phone down and really listening to what your child is saying.
15 minutes a day of Special Time. “I’m all yours for the next 15 minutes. What should we play?”
A smile for no reason or an unexpected hug or snuggle.
It doesn’t have to be huge. 🙂
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Sarah Rosensweet is a certified peaceful parenting coach, speaker, and educator. She lives in Toronto with her husband and three big kids (ages 15, 18, and 21). Peaceful parenting is a non-punitive, connection-based approach that uses firm limits with lots of empathy. Sarah works one-on-one virtually with parents all over the world to help them go from frustrated and overwhelmed to, “We’ve got this!”
Read more at: www.sarahrosensweet.com
![As parents, we all face challenges, but what happens when traditional parenting approaches don’t work?
That’s why my client during this call, Samantha, is actively transitioning to a Peaceful Parenting approach.
We’re talking through how those challenges can feel even more intense when your child is more sensitive and needs additional attention and understanding.
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