Yay!! Your parenting superpower is “Connection”
I see you. You truly delight in spending time with your kids.
And even though in modern family life it takes effort to find time to be together, you’re willing to do what it takes to find the time to connect with your kids…
…turn your phone on do not disturb during family time (even though you’d love to scroll through Instagram)
…read the most beloved book again at bedtime (even when you want to continue binge-watching your current Netflix show)
…rearrange schedules to prioritize family meals (even if it means giving the kids a hearty afterschool snack so they can wait until your partner is home)
Well done! Give yourself a hug. Your commitment deserves celebration!
go ahead and brag a little…
and then keep reading MORE about your superpower!
Check in with yourself…
There’s a sneaky trap that parents whose superpower is ‘connection’ may fall into — so it’s time for a quick self-check in.
Trying to make kids happy makes day-to-day life hard.
Sometimes as parents you may have limited time with your children and don’t want the time you value so much to be taken up by disappointment and meltdowns. So you might try to give them what they are asking for (a cookie, more iPad time) to avoid conflict.
Sure, you love to connect with your child but you might be…
… letting their happiness get in the way of developing resilience and emotional intelligence
…feeling like a terrible parent when your kid isn’t happy because you’ve attached your self-worth to an impossible ideal
If you’ve fallen into this trap, you’re not alone.
There are two peaceful parenting strategies that you might love:
Welcome and allow feelings
It’s okay if your child is unhappy with you! Take a few deep breaths and remind yourself that these feelings will pass. You can handle them and so can your child. Your loving presence as they feel safe to share their big emotions enables them to develop emotional resilience.
Use empathic limits
If you have to say no to an ice cream, rather than change your mind at the first sign of tears, let your child cry over the disappointment. Empathize with them and remember what it’s like to be disappointed and powerless. That’s how they feel! The more compassionate you can be, the easier it’ll be for your child to get to the softer feelings and tears under the anger. And don’t forget that it’s okay if your child is upset with you.
So, what’s peaceful parenting anyway?
Peaceful parenting is an approach that uses kind, firm limits with lots of empathy.
We’re in charge but we give kids the support they need to meet our expectations. We emphasize connection and prioritize our relationship with our kids.
Because guess what?
Our relationship is the most effective way we can influence our kids.
And as a parent with solid self-regulation skills, you’ve got what it takes to build a long-lasting great relationship with yours.
Meet your peaceful parenting coach, Sarah
Meet your parenting coach, Sarah
I’m a mom of three teenagers who care what I think.**
And it’s because of peaceful parenting…
**That’s 90% of the equation for raising great kids you want to spend time with (and who want to spend time with you!)
I give you the peaceful parenting tools and strategies you need to know and the love and support you need to implement them.
Whether you’re being driven around the bend by kids who don’t listen until you yell, or feel like getting anyone to do anything is like pulling teeth, you are in the right place.
It is possible to enjoy your kids and be the parent you want to be.