“Delight in your child! Your child learns to see themselves through your eyes.” – Sarah Rosensweet
Delight in your child. What does this mean?
Years ago, the late Toni Morrison was on the Oprah show. (via Brene Brown) She perfectly explained the big idea I want you to embrace.
Ms. Morrison explained that it’s interesting to watch what happens when a child walks into the room. She asked, ‘Does your face light up?’
She explained, ‘When my children used to walk in the room when they were little, I looked at them to see if they had buckled their trousers or if their hair was combed, or if their socks were up. You think your affection and your deep love is on display because you’re caring for them. It’s not. When they see you, they see the critical face. What’s wrong now?’ Instead, she said, ‘Let your face speak what’s in your heart. When they walk in the room, my face says I’m glad to see them. It’s just as small as that, you see?’”
Take a moment to delight in your child several times a day as you are all moving through the schedule.
When you see your child first thing in the morning, when you pick them up after school, when they come in the room, when they come to dinner- WHENEVER- look them in the eye and give them a smile.
You can say, “I’m glad to see you.” Or, “I love you.” Or, “I’m so lucky you’re my kid.”
Or, say nothing and just smile!
Delight in your child!
Sarah Rosensweet is a certified peaceful parenting coach, speaker, and educator. She lives in Toronto with her husband and three big kids (ages 14, 17, and 20). Peaceful parenting is a non-punitive, connection-based approach that uses firm limits with lots of empathy. Sarah works one-on-one virtually with parents all over the world to help them go from frustrated and overwhelmed to, “We’ve got this!”
Read more at: www.sarahrosensweet.com