“Our children need to know that we take joy in them or they don’t see themselves as worth loving. In fact, your ability to enjoy your child may be the most important factor in his development.” – Laura Markham
Our children learn to see themselves through our eyes. If we want our child to feel that they are worthy and loveable, it starts with us making sure they know they are.
This is why I encourage you to try to delight in your child every day!
Delighting in your child means, in the words of the late Toni Morrison, ‘Let your face speak what’s in your heart. When they walk in the room, my face says I’m glad to see them.”
Yes, we have a lot on our minds and a lot on our plates.
Yes, our child sometimes pushes all our buttons.
We can put aside our adult worries as best we can when we’re with our kids.
We can recognize that our child is doing the best they can.
We can delight in our child so that they see themselves as worth loving.
Take a moment to delight in your child several times a day as you are all moving through the schedule.
When you see your child first thing in the morning, when they come in the room, when they come to dinner- WHENEVER- look them in the eye and give them a smile.
You can say, “I’m glad to see you.” Or, “I love you.” Or, “I’m so lucky you’re my kid.”
Or, say nothing and just smile!
Delight in your child! It may be the most important thing that you can do as a parent.
Sarah Rosensweet is a certified peaceful parenting coach, speaker, and educator. She lives in Toronto with her husband and three big kids (ages 15, 18, and 21). Peaceful parenting is a non-punitive, connection-based approach that uses firm limits with lots of empathy. Sarah works one-on-one virtually with parents all over the world to help them go from frustrated and overwhelmed to, “We’ve got this!”
Read more at: www.sarahrosensweet.com