“Don’t force an apology, help your child make a repair.” – Sarah Rosensweet
When we try to make our child apologize, we have to ask ourselves why. Is it so our child will learn a lesson? Is it because we are embarrassed? Either of those reasons for forced apologies feel like a punishment and will cause our child to resist or to feel shame (or both.) When we move away from shaming or “teaching a lesson” and our child is able to act in the true spirit of apology:
Apologies not only make the other person feel better, they help us feel like a good person again.
Sarah Rosensweet is a certified peaceful parenting coach, speaker, and educator, and the parenting advice columnist for Canada’s Globe and Mail newspaper. She lives in Toronto with her husband and three big kids (ages 13, 16, and 19). Peaceful parenting is a non-punitive, connection-based approach that uses firm limits with lots of empathy. Sarah works one-on-one virtually with parents all over the world to help them go from frustrated and overwhelmed to, “We’ve got this!”
Read more at: www.sarahrosensweet.com