“Don’t force an apology, help your child make a repair.” – Sarah Rosensweet
When we try to make our child apologize, we have to ask ourselves why. Is it so our child will learn a lesson? Is it because we are embarrassed? Either of those reasons for forced apologies feel like a punishment and will cause our child to resist or to feel shame (or both.) When we move away from shaming or “teaching a lesson” and our child is able to act in the true spirit of apology:
Apologies not only make the other person feel better, they help us feel like a good person again.
Sarah Rosensweet is a certified peaceful parenting coach, speaker, and educator. She lives in Toronto with her husband and three big kids (ages 13, 16, and 20). Peaceful parenting is a non-punitive, connection-based approach that uses firm limits with lots of empathy. Sarah works one-on-one virtually with parents all over the world to help them go from frustrated and overwhelmed to, “We’ve got this!”
Read more at: www.sarahrosensweet.com