“Forced sharing teaches your child to hold on tightly to things for at any moment they could be snatched away. “- Sarah Rosensweet
In peaceful parenting, we suggest that children never have to share things that belong just to them. If a child is using something that belongs to the whole family, they can use it until they are done with it. Forced sharing creates resentment, which actually interferes with the development of generosity and kindness and can even create anxiety. Help your child keep their property ‘safe’ and support ‘long turns’ for community property. You may have to deal with the emotional fallout from siblings. That’s okay. They are building emotional resilience. They are also learning that when it’s their turn, they don’t have to worry about toys being taken away and that their property rights will be respected. If this is difficult for you, imagine how you would feel if your boss said it was your coworker’s turn with your computer, “You’ve had it long enough.” Or your boss says you have to let your coworker borrow your car. Right?
Sarah Rosensweet is a certified peaceful parenting coach, speaker, and educator, and the parenting advice columnist for Canada’s Globe and Mail newspaper. She lives in Toronto with her husband and three big kids (ages 13, 16, and 19). Peaceful parenting is a non-punitive, connection-based approach that uses firm limits with lots of empathy. Sarah works one-on-one virtually with parents all over the world to help them go from frustrated and overwhelmed to, “We’ve got this!”
Read more at: www.sarahrosensweet.com