“We ought to love children “for no good reason.” What counts is not that we believe we love them unconditionally, but that they feel loved in that way.” – Alfie Kohn
What makes a child feel loved?
A few ideas:
Listening to them without multi-tasking or looking at our phones. Prioritizing spending time with them whenever we can.
Asking them about things they’re thinking about or interested in.
Making sure they know we still think they are a good person even if we have to correct them by leading with empathy and acknowledging their point of view.
Giving them the benefit of the doubt and believing that they are doing the best they can.
Letting the love we feel in our hearts show in our actions and on our faces by delighting in our child whenever possible.
Accepting them for who they are not who we wish they were.
What other ideas do you have? Leave them below.
Sarah Rosensweet is a certified peaceful parenting coach, speaker, and educator, and the parenting advice columnist for Canada’s Globe and Mail newspaper. She lives in Toronto with her husband and three big kids (ages 13, 16, and 19). Peaceful parenting is a non-punitive, connection-based approach that uses firm limits with lots of empathy. Sarah works one-on-one virtually with parents all over the world to help them go from frustrated and overwhelmed to, “We’ve got this!”
Read more at: www.sarahrosensweet.com