Yay!! Your parenting superpower is “Setting Limits”
I see you. You know your kid will listen, or cooperate with what you are asking, when you have given them a reason to buy into your request.
And even though getting their attention can be frustrating, when you do, you’re able to get them to follow your instructions by…
…following through with your request (even when they say, “You’re the meanest mommy in the world”)
…holding high expectations for their behaviour (when you tell them to stop fighting with their siblings, they do)
…recognizing that being flexible helps (even if it feels like you’ve already been more than fair)
Give yourself a pat on the back! Getting kids to cooperate takes time and effort.
go ahead and brag a little…
and then keep reading MORE about your superpower!
Check in with yourself…
There’s a sneaky trap that parents whose superpower is ‘setting limits’ may fall into — so it’s time for a quick self-check in.
Trying to get kids to follow instructions and get along is tough.
Sometimes you just need to get out the door, or perhaps you’ve had a long day. So you might try to do whatever it takes to try to get your kids to listen.
Sure, you’re great at setting and sticking with limits for your child, but you might be…
…getting them to do what you want but only with the promise of a bribe or the threat of time-outs or consequences
…finding yourself yelling before they pay attention to your request
If you’ve fallen into this trap, you’re not alone.
There are two peaceful parenting strategies that you might love:
Find a win/win solution
Avoid power struggles, yelling and threats by finding a win/win solution! Win/win solutions give your child what they want more of (usually play!) while you get what you want (cooperation!) Get creative! Bring the Lego figure they’re playing with in the car or piggyback them upstairs to bed.
Connect before you direct.
When you it seems like your child doesn’t actually hear you, there’s a good chance they’re engrossed in their play. Try tapping them on the shoulder and then get in their face in a friendly way. Look into their eyes, smile to make a connection with them, and nod. Say, “Okay, you hear me. I have your attention.” Then you make your request or give directions.
So, what’s peaceful parenting anyway?
Peaceful parenting is an approach that uses kind, firm limits with lots of empathy.
We’re in charge but we give kids the support they need to meet our expectations. We emphasize connection and prioritize our relationship with our kids.
Because guess what?
Our relationship is the most effective way we can influence our kids.
And as a parent with solid self-regulation skills, you’ve got what it takes to build a long-lasting great relationship with yours.
Meet your peaceful parenting coach, Sarah
I’m a mom of three teenagers who care what I think.**
**That’s 90% of the equation for raising great kids you want to spend time with (and who want to spend time with you!)
And it’s because of peaceful parenting…
I give you the peaceful parenting tools and strategies you need to know and the love and support you need to implement them.
Whether you’re being driven around the bend by kids who don’t listen until you yell, or feel like getting anyone to do anything is like pulling teeth, you are in the right place.
It is possible to enjoy your kids and be the parent you want to be.