“The only way our child will calm down (or want to calm down) is if they feel understood and their feelings are acknowledged.” – Sarah Rosensweet
Think about the last time you were really upset. Maybe your partner did something that really made you mad. What would be your reaction if your partner said, “Calm down! Take some deep breaths!” What about if your partner said, “Hey, I’m so sorry. You have every right to be upset. I totally understand why you are so angry. Is there anything I can do?” Way different, yes? When our feelings are acknowledged and met with empathy, we start to feel better and we actually WANT to calm down. You don’t have to agree to empathize. You only have to acknowledge and try to understand.
Sarah Rosensweet is a certified peaceful parenting coach, speaker, and educator. She lives in Toronto with her husband and three big kids (ages 14, 17, and 20). Peaceful parenting is a non-punitive, connection-based approach that uses firm limits with lots of empathy. Sarah works one-on-one virtually with parents all over the world to help them go from frustrated and overwhelmed to, “We’ve got this!”
Read more at: www.sarahrosensweet.com