My 14-year-old son is in Grade 9 and he has so much more homework than he ever has before. Every day is a battle to get him to do it. He’s doing well in school, but I am so tired of fighting with him about it.
I think that almost every parent reading this shares your pain.
If you are nagging your child to do his homework, and making sure he does it, you are taking responsibility for his homework. And if you are taking responsibility, he doesn’t have to. When will you stop taking responsibility? Grade 10? Grade 11? University? You might want to stop now. That doesn’t mean you wash your hands of him. You can support him in a way that still encourages him to step up.
How do you do this?
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Sarah Rosensweet is a peaceful parenting coach and parenting advice columnist for Canada's Globe and Mail newspaper. She lives in Toronto with her husband and three big kids (ages 12, 15, and 19). Sarah teaches parents a non-punitive, connection-based approach that uses firm limits with lots of empathy. Enjoy your kids again! Find her at sarahrosensweet.com