Yay!! Your parenting superpower is “Welcoming Feelings”
I see you. You welcome all feelings with empathy so your child can feel seen, heard, and acknowledged.
And even though your child’s big feelings can be hard to deal with, you make a real effort to hold space for their emotions…
…using kind words to acknowledge their frustration (even when it’s because you cut their muffin the ‘wrong way)
…coaching them with alternative ways to express their feelings (even when they’re acting out in aggression because they can’t have more screen time)
…recognizing their need to get it all out (even if it feels like they’re whining about every single thing)
Well done!! Give yourself a hug. Your compassion deserves celebration.
go ahead and brag a little…
and then keep reading MORE about your superpower!
Check in with yourself…
There’s a sneaky trap that parents whose superpower is ‘welcoming feelings’ may fall into — so it’s time for a quick self-check in.
Sometimes when they’re rude or acting with aggression towards you, it’s easy to wonder if you’ve been too “easy” on them. You wonder if maybe you’ve created little drama kings and queens!
Or maybe it hurts your feelings when they get upset with you. It’s hard not to take it personally.
Sure, you’re great at empathizing with all the feelings your child expresses, but you might be…
…feeling like a punching bag as you take on your child’s big feelings, including their aggression
…doubting that’s it’s necessary or the right thing to do
If you’ve fallen into this trap, you’re not alone.
There are two peaceful parenting strategies that you might love:
Give yourself some love.
Just like the understanding and compassion you show your kids when they’re having a hard time, you deserve the same grace. You know that your kids are doing the best they can, and it’s your truth too.Even though your child is melting down or lashing out, you are still worthy and loveable! Use that self-compassion to ground you so you can stay compassionate for your child.
Remind yourself that it’s okay if your child is upset.
Even though you’re often on the receiving end, remember your child’s outbursts and behaviour is not about you. Ask yourself what is driving the behaviour and respond with empathy to that. You don’t have to agree to empathize. Plus, suffering is part of the human condition and helps kids develop their ability to recover after a setback. They are not being drama kings or queens. This is the age-appropriate suffering they need to experience- and process all the way through- to develop resilience.
So, what’s peaceful parenting anyway?
Peaceful parenting is an approach that uses kind, firm limits with lots of empathy.
We’re in charge but we give kids the support they need to meet our expectations. We emphasize connection and prioritize our relationship with our kids.
Because guess what?
Our relationship is the most effective way we can influence our kids.
And as a parent with solid self-regulation skills, you’ve got what it takes to build a long-lasting great relationship with yours.
Meet your peaceful parenting coach, Sarah
I’m a mom of three teenagers who care what I think.**
And it’s because of peaceful parenting…
**That’s 90% of the equation for raising great kids you want to spend time with (and who want to spend time with you!)
I give you the peaceful parenting tools and strategies you need to know and the love and support you need to implement them.
Whether you’re being driven around the bend by kids who don’t listen until you yell, or feel like getting anyone to do anything is like pulling teeth, you are in the right place.
It is possible to enjoy your kids and be the parent you want to be.
You CAN go from overwhelmed and frustrated to “I’ve got this”.
Check out these two articles to support your superpower:
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